I know I have said before that women are better off not married; I particularly feel that there are many excellent reasons Indian women should not marry. However, I also feel that are some excellent reasons to get married as well. Being happily married for a long time myself, I feel that I can speak with some authority on the reasons why the institution of marriage is not yet obsolete. If you're wondering whether marriage is a good idea or not, this may help you make up your mind:
This is the least important reason to get married but important it is. Parents, assorted uncles and matchmaker aunts, practically everyone wants to know why you are not married and how they can help you get hitched. Getting married is the best way to shut them up!
You found the perfect guy! He is a friend, he is sensitive, he is sorted, egalitarian, and you really, really like him! Plus he gets you. Hold on girl, and never let go!
She is lovely, she likes your family (or at least can put up with them), and she likes you! Most importantly, she is willing to marry you – grab hold with both hands and say thank you very much!
Imagine being with your friend every day. Going to bed with them, waking up with them, eating your meals with them, going on holiday with them! And let’s face it, most Indians still frown upon people living together – so just go ahead and make it official!
You get to have your own big fat Indian wedding! You are the star of your own show – at least for a few days. OK, that is the most shallow reason to get married, but, hey! none of us is perfect! And think of how happy mummyji, daddydi, nana-nani, chacha-chachi and all the other assorted relatives will be! It will give them time to do some more matchmaking!
No, no, I don’t mean Salman Khan in the movie Ready. Ready as in you're ready. You feel you're in a place in your life when you're ready to settle down with someone you will be happy to spend the rest of your life with. You have the maturity to handle real intimacy, have the financial wherewithal for a steady relationship and additional responsibilities. Ergo, marriage is a good idea!
Sure you can have kids otherwise as well. But to create a little life with someone you love and then love that new little life more than life itself – ah! Now that is an experience beyond any! Having a child is challenging, fulfilling, rewarding and it’s the most fun you’ll ever have – I kid you not!
Studies show that people in close, loving long-term relationships live healthier, longer lives. The companionship, the shared experiences, the loving intimacy – it all makes you healthier and happier! It makes life worth living when you have someone to share it with.
You never know the roll of the dice. If you're worried about how things will turn out, relax. Or rather don’t! Don’t take your spouse for granted, love them, prioritise them, and show them how important they are to you. Cherish them and your relationship – I think you should be good.
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