You know what they say, actions speak louder than words and nowhere is this truer than with that most intimate of relationships; marriage. When men take their wives for granted, or simply get too comfortable in their relationship, they may be eroding the self worth of the woman they are married to, a husband may be negating his wife without meaning to; without even being aware of it.
Women need reassurance. The most important man in her life needs to reassure her that she is beautiful, attractive to him and that he appreciates her efforts. It is as simple as that.
She needs to be hugged and kissed (and no we’re not talking about foreplay here) and to be made to feel precious and cherished. She needs to feel desired by you!
Do you tune out when she is speaking? Are you hearing the words but not registering the meaning? She feels diminished by this; it is a sign that you don’t care; or don’t care enough.
Do you stride ahead when you're in public with her? Do you bother to see if she is walking alongside or does she have to jog to keep up? It may seem like an unimportant trivial thing to you, but to her it is important that you walk with her, look at her when she speaks, hold her hand, put your hand under her elbow gently as you cross the road. Remember she is not your valet!
A new hair cut or a new outfit… she likely did it for you. If you don’t notice it; you're sending out the message that you no longer really look at your wife or actually notice her and certainly don't appreciate her.
Maybe she got something new for the home; cooked something special for a meal. If you don’t notice, she isn’t just disappointed; she is hurt that her care and extra effort seem not to matter.
She will probably forgive you if you don’t notice her, what she is wearing and how she is looking. But to do this and then notice what another woman is wearing and how she is looking; well that is just unspeakable!
It’s a modern malaise that we all have our email and social networks to attend to. But remember your real relationships are more important than your virtual ones; don’t make her feel inconsequential or unimportant. Don’t be that statistic in the picture!
If you say mean things about her and what she does; criticize her efforts repeatedly; even indirectly this could destroy her spirit and this can soon spiral into actual abuse.
She wants to know that you are proud of her and want to be seen with her. When you're around other people, put your arm around her, hold her hand, smile lovingly at her…and mean it.
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