Today's world is a world of relentless communication. With social media offering a seamless ocean of communication, it is easy to find new shores of expression, interesting facets of the discussion along with there being a whole new world of people to meet from all around the world.
Yet, some people use social media to explore love, an important element of life and often in their search to find matters of the heart, make a way to find their ex's and former lovers. But, could this be a dangerous idea, a stimulant for ill-conceived relationship ideas? Let's explore.
Love is, after all love. And even when matters of the past are tucked behind, with social media being there, there's always the gleeful guilt-trap to check out on one's ex. Somehow, the urgency and want to discover what an ex is up to seems to be a nice idea. Or is it?
While some may feel it to be a notorious idea to sneak up on an ex, others may feel to be a guilty pleasure worth re-visiting. At times, people wish to explore the void left by their former flames or lovers by checking them out on social media because of being alone or just simply bored.
Love is a beautiful emotion and quite like that pleasant shock that you enjoy getting a jolt with. One may never know if time becomes the ideal healer, in which case social media offers a great chance to rekindle lost romances and re-uniting with past lovers and flames.
She's in Memphis while you are in Kentucky. Worst still, you are in Geneva and he's in Brasilia! So what, social media is the same roof under which we share common space with our love interests. It can be hugely gratifying to note that long distance relationships seem like a non-existing void thanks to the seamless connectivity offered by social media. But still, is that a great idea anyway?
Truth be told, it's one thing to fall in love on social media and get together again with a newfound love interest and quite another to be in a relationship with a person in 'real life' minus the square laptop or iPad screen. Real love seldom blossoms online. Popular relationship expert Allison Abrams is of the view that we tend to hang on to old love interests because our selective memory tends to kick in.
One may not be able to defeat or counter this valid view.
At times what we feel is love, could just be a seemingly emphatic attraction. What seems love may actually not be that potent four letter word feeling. And one can blame social media for giving a rapid exposure to amazing lifestyles and so many vibrant cultures from around the world that the whole idea of love seems deceptively real. Therefore, this leads to flirtations and short-lived romantic entanglements that aren't concrete fruitful relationships.
Social media besides its whirlwind positives can be a replete gateway to myriad misinterpretations about love. You sneak up on your ex thinking to catch a glimpse of his and her life and you find your former partner seeming happy being with another person. This could be a blow to some and cause grievance and self-pity, certainly not a good idea of seeking happiness through a past love.
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